'Sending your child away, don't you feel ashamed?'.
One of the statements we often hear, whether from our sister, mother, neighbor,
and even friends. Indeed, the above sentence should not be launched. If we
admit ourselves as a parent who was commissioned by the Almighty for giving a
child, and even many children. Have we as a parent recognize our children? or
perhaps our housemaid even knows them much better than us.
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Child care is rife and
happens everywhere, offering a number of services to care for children at a
high price, offering comfort and attention to the children entrusted. O,
Fathers, mothers ... do we feel to be a part of the group who leave our own
children, where they spend more time with our housemaid who provides them
something to eat, drink, cleans up their droppings, and even helps them to
sleep. Do we not realize that in fact we have distanced ourselves from our
children? Yes, we are the one who has made those gap, we are the one who make
our children feel strange to us.
Nowadays, it is rife where
mothers work outside the home due to the family's economic difficulties, lack
of husband's needs, and even as a life choice to work outside the home, so that
their children interact more with their maid and toys that are deliberately set
up to accompany their daily life. The personality differences between entrusted
children and those who are cared by their own parents, i.e. mother, are
significant. Children who are raised by his biological mother tend to have a
more mature and perfect personality, while the children who are cared by
someone else tend to have imperfect personality and mentality. However, it is
possible among the two above parentings, the opposite occurs where the children
have a stronger and independent mentality and independent due to lack of
prudence and attention from their biological parents even if they are raised by
them. It is indeed a dilemma, but is this a reason not to maintain and care for
our own children? What a pity. Children who can boast us in the future should
know more about us as their own parents, rather than they obey and cherish more
to others. How ironic.
Are we aware? When children
feel lonely because they are away from us, there's actually a sense of loss in
their hearts, though not much. However, due to the habits which are well
ingrained in their hearts during the first three months after birth, they, i.e.
the baby, feel a huge comfort of the presence of their mothers near them, feel
that their needs are always well organized and well executed by their mother,
but due to disadvantageous circumstances, i.e. their mother has to work after
the leave runs out, the children have to adapt again with circumstances that
have been applied and disciplined by the mother. Children are more likely to do
a habit that has been enacted. What a pity that they should lose anything which
should be a good habits with their mother.
Psychologically, children
aged 0-6 months are still very fond of the stimulus or much attention paid by
the parents, a time when babies begin to recognize the faces of the mother and
father, heard the sound of their parents, and moreover, when there is direct
contact between parent's and their skin, it can stimulate the child to be more
active. When the baby gets a stimulus stimulating the body of organism or other
receptors to be active, when the stimulus is provided on an ongoing basis, the
responses given in the form of signal behavior are also continuous. Similarly,
their brain will try to review and save the data to be used periodically.
That's why the toddler age is commonly called golden age, because the receptors
in the brain are growing rapidly and can form characteristic of thought.
So, it is better if the child
gets the cares and parentings from their own parents, because it can result in
very good and optimum product.
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